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MReeder's avatar

so, you have to make me cry on Valentines day. Love this and so true. It fits the saying..."if you love someone set them free..." I do like to think of it as a remodel of the relationship rather than a "break-up."

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As a father one of the most important things, I do, is write a letter to my kids each year. I know a letter might seem like just a bunch of words, but, I feel it is more than that. It carries and exudes emotions, wishes, and dreams. It can lighten up your kid's week or give them the needed boost before a big day.

Regardless of the circumstances which prompts the letter, I include 7 key points in the letters that are need to be reinforced in every kid's life..and maybe more today than ever. 1) I Tell them I love them: because nothing can match the happiness your daughter or son gets when they are reassured about our love.

2) I tell them I believe in them: kids today are confident, but they seem to lose some of it as they enter the big world. 3) I explain what real beauty is: Kids are often misled by the unrealistic beauty standards set by today's world. Helping them understand the meaning of real beauty on the outside but more importantly also on the inside.

4) I Tell them how proud of them I am. Even if it is a small achievement, in the hopes that my appreciation will encourage them to do more.

5) I am always giving them "life Lessons" to help guide them about life and the world, mostly through sharing my life experiences with them. It's important for kids to understand what success is and most importantly that it is OK to fail at times. 6) A little to Kim's point today, I try to give just a tad of advice on love and heartbreaks, a new area for me, an area I am finding out where kids can really use our advice. 7) I reinforce them to follow their dreams, I feel it is important to encourage our kids to follow their passion and never have second thoughts on their ability to succeed, if we don't believe in them why would they have the confidence that others would as well?... and lastly, I assure them that I will always be there, to give them strength and courage to explore the world they live in.

To MReeder's point, I don't see it as a breakup, but, more of a "remodel" but there are 7 things they will always want from a Mother, a Father , and often both. (I know I'm wordy..make it a great day)

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